Thank you Dr Tenpenny for addressing this subject. When my 45 yr old daughter, Laura died 9 yrs ago from cancer and also from the toxic treatments still being used by the James hosp in Columbus, OH, I too, thought the overwhelming grief would never get any easier. I attended Compassionate Friends meetings for months, then went through a very helpful program called GriefShare (a 13 wk biblical based program with a curriculum of videos and group discussions). I actually went through that program twice. My faith wavered, as I lamented to God about the unfairness, but as I made my way through the darkest tunnel that I've ever been in, I began to see light again. Plus I finally began to realize that when I only saw one set of footprints, they were not mine, but Gods! Now God and I are good and I am able to thank him for the beautiful gift named Laura that I got to have for 45 years.
I have lost 2 sons, one to a pulmonary embolism in 2018, and one to a drug overdose in 2022. I had to take my grandson in after the first death and was so concerned with his welfare that I stuffed my own feelings down and never properly grieved. After the second one, I went to GriefShare and realized how I had shortchanged myself. I since found Compassionate Friends who had helped my mother in law back in the 90s and found great relief sharing my experience with others who had been through the same thing.
My wife and I grieve differently and CF helped us to understand that. My personal journey is now one of speaking out about and writing about my children, living or deceased. They are treasure given to us on loan from God and we never know when we will repay the loan but we all hope it will be after our own death.
Andrew, I cannot imagine losing two children. I am so sorry. A very kind lady said to me shortly after the death of my daughter that she did not have any words of wisdom other than " it won't always hurt this bad." I hung onto those words and made them my mantra through the darkest of times. And over time those words helped me to cope. I'm glad you found CF and GriefShare. It does help to be with people who not only know our pain but also encourage us to talk about our children to keep their memory alive. You are right about our kids being on loan from God. They are a gift.
This is truly a heartwarming subject, but one that we all face in our lifetime. Grief is a strong cost for Love. When we love unconditionally, we open our hearts to our loved one, whoever it is. The loss of our parents, spouse, or a child is and can be over whelming. Rather the loss is sudden or prolonged only extends the amount of grief we feel. I remember when I sister loss her husband, the father of her 5 children to cancer 50 years ago, she was told by a leader in her church, "well God needed him more" I thought then, how can taking the father from a family, the last a 1 month old, be considered better than him being here as the wonderful parent, I know he would have been to the children and love of my sisters life. Grief was all consuming for her. But as you said, the loss becomes a shadow. Life does go forward, but the place our loved one took in our hearts is ever present. And so, it should be. I have not lost a child, but I have sat with and been beside many family members and my parents especially were hard to witness, yet the longevity of their years was of some comfort, as they went to their eternal home, with Jesus Christ. So yes, love those with us now. And care for them. For me personally, I believe the loss of my parents will forever leave a mark with me. I struggle each and every day to be worthy of them and make myself worthy of joining them someday. Thank you Sherri for a heart rendering moment.
My friend’s best friend, “B”, is losing her 40 y. o. son to cancer. He was recovering and then, boom, it came back with a vengeance. I’ll forward your post to my friend, Dr. T.
Thank you Dr T. This week I will celebrate the birthday of my only son, Derrick. He lived 73 days, died suddenly of SIDS. He would be 34 and 2nd of 5..the only boy. It has been a life-ling ache that takes my breath away and truly I feel like the best part of me died that cold Jan afternoon. The worst is my family forgetting he is part of our family still, grandparents who never mentioned him again. Like it didn’t matter…but as his Mom, I know those 73 days changed me forever.
I learned there are worse pains than death. My 4 living children have ghosted me because of my vaccine stand. I had a new grandson born this week and was told I can only see him IF I am FULLY caught up on ALL vax, including flu, covid, shingles!!! And rsv. She wishes me dead I guess…or maybe just life-long slowly dying with multiple health issues??? No respect for my research, knowledge or insight into big pharma. My son did not choose to leave me, but my daughters clearly are choosing to. This is worse than death to me.
My heart aches to read this. I’ve recently been reading that there are concerns that SIDS deaths may be caused by the vaccines they give the little ones. So heartbreaking. Also the “loss” of your daughters. Praying that you have a good support system utilizing very dear friends. ❤️
I have Patriot prayer pals who stood by me when I lost my job over mask mandates at my medical office. 3 years of masking compliance and granted a religious exemption, Promedica in Toledo, Ohio decided to be punitive. The masking mandate was dropped for all, Except those with religious exemptions, as we were a risk to others. It violated my constitutional rights, medical autonomy, HIPAA and EEOC laws by creating a hostile work environment for us. By then, I had developed mask anxiety and a facial tic due to 8 hours of masking 3 days a week. Promedica told me they would be fined 1500 per employee by the Medicare/via Joint commission reporting. They sent me home till compliance, and then fired me for “job abandonment” @ Age 66! My friends pray, support and fight this abuse ( ongoing) everyday.
You are an inspiration! You stood strong for what you believed (the truth)! I thank God that I was already retired, so I didn’t have to make the choice about the clot shots. As you know firsthand, the religious exemption wasn’t always honored. So glad that your other Patriot friends prayed for/with you! You are indeed blessed. Someday, your daughters may realize their mistakes and will ask forgiveness. I pray this will happen. Stay strong and hugs to you! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you, Sherri, for this precious, heartfelt letter of comfort. GOD bless you, wonderful woman.
"And the LORD answered, "My Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest." Exodus 33:14 BSB
"I will give you rest."
"A Love letter to you, whoever you are."
I say don't be sad but joyful, yes, they will always be remembered and never forgotten. Every moment spent with them will be forever cherished. Their smiling faces will live on in your heart, the sound of their laughter will always remain in your ears, and the thought of them will never stop bringing you joy, so don't be sad but happy and be filled with their memories, yes, you will always hold them in your heart. Your Love for them will never stop being your strength to live another day. Now rest, and remember the One who said, "I will give you rest." He is still with you. He will always be, forever, with you.
Thank you Dr Tenpenny for addressing this subject. When my 45 yr old daughter, Laura died 9 yrs ago from cancer and also from the toxic treatments still being used by the James hosp in Columbus, OH, I too, thought the overwhelming grief would never get any easier. I attended Compassionate Friends meetings for months, then went through a very helpful program called GriefShare (a 13 wk biblical based program with a curriculum of videos and group discussions). I actually went through that program twice. My faith wavered, as I lamented to God about the unfairness, but as I made my way through the darkest tunnel that I've ever been in, I began to see light again. Plus I finally began to realize that when I only saw one set of footprints, they were not mine, but Gods! Now God and I are good and I am able to thank him for the beautiful gift named Laura that I got to have for 45 years.
I have lost 2 sons, one to a pulmonary embolism in 2018, and one to a drug overdose in 2022. I had to take my grandson in after the first death and was so concerned with his welfare that I stuffed my own feelings down and never properly grieved. After the second one, I went to GriefShare and realized how I had shortchanged myself. I since found Compassionate Friends who had helped my mother in law back in the 90s and found great relief sharing my experience with others who had been through the same thing.
My wife and I grieve differently and CF helped us to understand that. My personal journey is now one of speaking out about and writing about my children, living or deceased. They are treasure given to us on loan from God and we never know when we will repay the loan but we all hope it will be after our own death.
Thanks for sharing what helped you through the loss of your boys Andrew. Blessings🙏
You’re very welcome, Dena!
Andrew, I cannot imagine losing two children. I am so sorry. A very kind lady said to me shortly after the death of my daughter that she did not have any words of wisdom other than " it won't always hurt this bad." I hung onto those words and made them my mantra through the darkest of times. And over time those words helped me to cope. I'm glad you found CF and GriefShare. It does help to be with people who not only know our pain but also encourage us to talk about our children to keep their memory alive. You are right about our kids being on loan from God. They are a gift.
Take care.
Thank you for your kind words and may God Bless you!
Thank you so much for this, it was very timely for my 💔I love you & appreciate all you do🙏🏽
This is truly a heartwarming subject, but one that we all face in our lifetime. Grief is a strong cost for Love. When we love unconditionally, we open our hearts to our loved one, whoever it is. The loss of our parents, spouse, or a child is and can be over whelming. Rather the loss is sudden or prolonged only extends the amount of grief we feel. I remember when I sister loss her husband, the father of her 5 children to cancer 50 years ago, she was told by a leader in her church, "well God needed him more" I thought then, how can taking the father from a family, the last a 1 month old, be considered better than him being here as the wonderful parent, I know he would have been to the children and love of my sisters life. Grief was all consuming for her. But as you said, the loss becomes a shadow. Life does go forward, but the place our loved one took in our hearts is ever present. And so, it should be. I have not lost a child, but I have sat with and been beside many family members and my parents especially were hard to witness, yet the longevity of their years was of some comfort, as they went to their eternal home, with Jesus Christ. So yes, love those with us now. And care for them. For me personally, I believe the loss of my parents will forever leave a mark with me. I struggle each and every day to be worthy of them and make myself worthy of joining them someday. Thank you Sherri for a heart rendering moment.
My friend’s best friend, “B”, is losing her 40 y. o. son to cancer. He was recovering and then, boom, it came back with a vengeance. I’ll forward your post to my friend, Dr. T.
Prayers up for everyone. 🙏🏻
This took my breath away. I will pray for the Lord to comfort and sustain your friend.
So helpful! Thank you Doc!!
Thank you Dr T. This week I will celebrate the birthday of my only son, Derrick. He lived 73 days, died suddenly of SIDS. He would be 34 and 2nd of 5..the only boy. It has been a life-ling ache that takes my breath away and truly I feel like the best part of me died that cold Jan afternoon. The worst is my family forgetting he is part of our family still, grandparents who never mentioned him again. Like it didn’t matter…but as his Mom, I know those 73 days changed me forever.
I learned there are worse pains than death. My 4 living children have ghosted me because of my vaccine stand. I had a new grandson born this week and was told I can only see him IF I am FULLY caught up on ALL vax, including flu, covid, shingles!!! And rsv. She wishes me dead I guess…or maybe just life-long slowly dying with multiple health issues??? No respect for my research, knowledge or insight into big pharma. My son did not choose to leave me, but my daughters clearly are choosing to. This is worse than death to me.
Stand strong, Dee. This is horribly difficult, but don't poison yourself on the ignorance of other
Thank you Dr T. You are so wise, as always, a true Light❤️ in this darkness.
My heart aches to read this. I’ve recently been reading that there are concerns that SIDS deaths may be caused by the vaccines they give the little ones. So heartbreaking. Also the “loss” of your daughters. Praying that you have a good support system utilizing very dear friends. ❤️
I have Patriot prayer pals who stood by me when I lost my job over mask mandates at my medical office. 3 years of masking compliance and granted a religious exemption, Promedica in Toledo, Ohio decided to be punitive. The masking mandate was dropped for all, Except those with religious exemptions, as we were a risk to others. It violated my constitutional rights, medical autonomy, HIPAA and EEOC laws by creating a hostile work environment for us. By then, I had developed mask anxiety and a facial tic due to 8 hours of masking 3 days a week. Promedica told me they would be fined 1500 per employee by the Medicare/via Joint commission reporting. They sent me home till compliance, and then fired me for “job abandonment” @ Age 66! My friends pray, support and fight this abuse ( ongoing) everyday.
You are an inspiration! You stood strong for what you believed (the truth)! I thank God that I was already retired, so I didn’t have to make the choice about the clot shots. As you know firsthand, the religious exemption wasn’t always honored. So glad that your other Patriot friends prayed for/with you! You are indeed blessed. Someday, your daughters may realize their mistakes and will ask forgiveness. I pray this will happen. Stay strong and hugs to you! ❤️❤️❤️
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I am deeply sorry for this unnecessary death. 😔
Thank you, Sherri, for this precious, heartfelt letter of comfort. GOD bless you, wonderful woman.
"And the LORD answered, "My Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest." Exodus 33:14 BSB
"I will give you rest."
"A Love letter to you, whoever you are."
I say don't be sad but joyful, yes, they will always be remembered and never forgotten. Every moment spent with them will be forever cherished. Their smiling faces will live on in your heart, the sound of their laughter will always remain in your ears, and the thought of them will never stop bringing you joy, so don't be sad but happy and be filled with their memories, yes, you will always hold them in your heart. Your Love for them will never stop being your strength to live another day. Now rest, and remember the One who said, "I will give you rest." He is still with you. He will always be, forever, with you.
GOD bless you all!
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